Trans-Inclusivity and Prayer for the End of Hiding

Recently, the Union of Reform Judaism passed a resolution to make Reform communities more welcoming to transgender people. While it doesn't provide specific measures for Reform synagogues to take on, it does recommend that synagogues can be more welcoming by designating gender-neutral bathrooms, training staff in trans issues and using gender-neutral language in prayers and sermons. These are actions that are simple to do and a great beginning to be welcoming to trans and queer folks in synagogues.

Last year, Jay Michelson wrote in the Jewish Daily Forward that the newfound inclusion of gays and lesbians in Jewish organizations is for the purpose of making money. Idit Klein, the Executive Director of Keshet, disagreed by arguing that the inclusion of gay and lesbian Jews in synagogues and other Jewish spaces is to help bring about more change from within. I can't agree with her more.

When I first visited Congregation Bet Haverim, a Reconstructionist synagogue in Atlanta, I was incredibly moved by the Prayer for the End of Hiding that the entire congregation says near the end of each service. Reading this prayer aloud that recognizes how I have been forced to make a dishonest presentation of myself as a queer Jew helped me feel both included and accepted in the community. Congregants who are Jews by birth, Jews by choice, straight, queer, somewhere in between, trans, lovers of Jews, and more say this prayer. I feel we all can find something in the words that speak to us.

As I've thought about my own experience as a queer Jew who desires to be fully accepted as my authentic self in a variety of Jewish spaces, I acknowledge it hasn't been easy, not only for me, but also for the greater community that isn't aware of the issues my friends and I face when entering into a Jewish space. In queer spaces, I feel too Jewish or too religious, and in Jewish spaces, I often feel too queer or too religious in communities that I know will accept me for who I am.

I think that for Reform Jews who are transgender and for their queer and straight allies in the Reform movement, the resolution is a great step in the right direction. For those of us who don't affiliate with Reform Judaism, we still have work to do in our own communities. We can't say, "The Reform movement is welcoming so we don't have to be."

I pray that we continue to be inclusive and welcoming of queer Jews and their loved ones throughout the Jewish community and in the words of the Prayer for the End of Hiding, "Creator of the Universe, we ask that our hiding draw to an end, that we no longer feel we have to pretend, to promise falsely, to renounce ourselves, and that our fullest creative expression as Jews and as gay people be among the blessings You bestow upon us."